Roxanne: Yeah, but it was all just in passing. It's only when I went to college and met different crowds of people that I understood that this was a problem.Īnna: Did you share these feelings with friends? Or with anyone at all? I had very low self-esteem and I didn't realize why I didn't know why. Roxanne: For my body image? No, because I didn't realize what was happening to me at the time. But that was never good enough for them.Īnna: And Roxanne, when you said it affected your mental health.do you mind if I ask if you went for therapy? I wasn't stick-thin and I wasn't overweight I was somewhere in between. People had their own idea of how I should look. But when I moved back to India, again, it just started all over. But when I moved to the UAE, there was this different outlook. There were certain clothes I didn't wear and that carried on into adulthood. I mean, as a child in India, I had people coming up to me to say, you put on weight, and it really affected my mental health. Roxanne: I can tell you for sure that there was a huge difference. So I have a question for you, Roxanne, because you've lived in two countries, did you notice any significant difference in the way others judged what you look like in both places? And most often, these are words that are talking about the bodies of women.Īnna: We're talking about body shaming on this episode. Tasmin: I think it's really bizarre that we have words like cankles and thigh gaps. But the issue is not what the word cankle means, but that we actually have a word for when a woman's ankle does not conform to some manmade standard and that's what the dictionary says: woman's ankles specifically. We're born with ankles, cankles, and thigh gaps and whatever. Its flesh merges with the calf.Īnna: I still don't see why or how that would matter. Roxanne: So to my understanding, the cankle is when you can't see that a woman has an ankle. But there's Roxanne here she says she always knew it. This friend of mine, he told a mutual friend that she had cankles.Īnna: Yeah, and all three of us women - that's Tasmin, I, and the girl who allegedly had cankles.we had never heard the word 'cankles' before. Today's episode is inspired by something a friend said. Tasmin: Thank you for having me on your podcast, mama. And Tasmin, a social worker, and content writer. And with me, I have Roxanne, who is a content editor. This is a space where we host difficult conversations between different generations of women.Īnna: Hello, I'm your host Anna. Tasmin: This is the Women Uninterrupted podcast brought to you by The Hindu. If you are a victim, take control, practice self-love and stay positive. So – if you indulge in body shaming – stop. Like all bullying, body shaming must be called out. I was high on self-assurance, so I did not get perturbed by comments on my looks, though I have untouched shelves of outfits that I wish to fit into someday, and heels to look taller in that I don’t wear.īut what happens to those who are body-shamed by phrases like fat ass, hit the gym, fatso, fat-boned, fatty, cankles, thigh gaps, shorty, lamp-post, and oldie? Trauma, low self-esteem, anxiety and eating disorders are consequences. Soon, horizontal growth ensued and my then boyfriend, now husband, called me a unit vector. I switch off the light, and I am perfect again.Īt 5 feet nothing, I learned early that I have to walk tall. While tiny bumps ruin the surface of my legs. You can also listen to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music You can listen to all episodes of Women Uninterrupted here The Women Uninterrupted podcast was produced by The Scribbling Pad for The Hindu.
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